Bev's Blog

Wed, Jul 17, 2013 8:36 am

I grew up believing the proper way to respond to a compliment was with modesty. If somebody said, "What a pretty dress," my response was something like, "Oh, this cheap old thing?"

When I was a young lawyer, if I worked long hours on a tough memo and a partner said, "You did a nice job," I was inclined to answer in the same way. I'd belittle my efforts by saying something like, "No big deal" or, "It was really a team effort."

Wed, Jun 26, 2013 9:05 am

A highly qualified professional went after his dream job. "Paul" has a solid record of extraordinary career success and he was confident about being the winning candidate. Then he felt devastated when he didn't get the job. Paul wrote me about the intensity of his reaction.

"I hate how this news makes me feel," Paul said. "Not only did I miss out on a job that I really wanted, but the company hired someone against whom I stacked up very well."

Thu, Jun 13, 2013 12:04 pm

A while back, a reader of my ezine wrote that self-discipline had always been a struggle for her. "I know I’m capable of it from time to time, and I’m definitely getting better at it, but I would like to keep improving."  She asked me to write something about how to improve self-discipline.  And "could you recommend any books?" she asked.

Thu, Jun 6, 2013 11:10 am

“Synchronicity” is the term psychologist Karl Jung coined to describe those times when meaningful coincidences seem to bring you what you need. When synchronistic events pile up, Jung said, it's as though you're being supported by an unseen helper.

Tue, May 28, 2013 9:23 am

Early in my career as a lawyer and corporate exec, I thought I could do it all. I worked long hours at the office or on the road. And often in my free time I worked in the garden. The opportunities seemed vast, and I hustled after them.

But then I noticed I had a perfect setting for a great life, but was working too hard to enjoy that life. Too often work consumed most of my time. And the garden started to feel like one more responsibility that was just a little too big.

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