Bev's Blog

Wed, Sep 4, 2013 5:31 pm

The classic concept of a "mentor" is someone who's older and more experienced. That idea of a wise, generous senior advisor leading us along a career path is wonderful and soothing, and makes us all want mentoring. But the image is so limited, and so dated. Here's what can make mentoring really hum: fostering relationships that are reciprocal.

I was thinking about the nature of mentoring during a recent long weekend, as I dropped in and out of a three-day conversation between my husband and one of his much younger professional pals.

Tue, Aug 13, 2013 8:57 am

When I’m contemplating yet another phase of my career, I tend to look around everywhere for examples of success. I’ve found it pays to identify people who are doing things well. I ask myself, “What’s helping them succeed? What are they doing that’s better than what I do?”

These days I’m learning a lot from people far younger than I am. I’m working to pick up their ease with technology, social media and entrepreneurship.

Wed, Jul 17, 2013 8:36 am

I grew up believing the proper way to respond to a compliment was with modesty. If somebody said, "What a pretty dress," my response was something like, "Oh, this cheap old thing?"

When I was a young lawyer, if I worked long hours on a tough memo and a partner said, "You did a nice job," I was inclined to answer in the same way. I'd belittle my efforts by saying something like, "No big deal" or, "It was really a team effort."

Wed, Jun 26, 2013 9:05 am

A highly qualified professional went after his dream job. "Paul" has a solid record of extraordinary career success and he was confident about being the winning candidate. Then he felt devastated when he didn't get the job. Paul wrote me about the intensity of his reaction.

"I hate how this news makes me feel," Paul said. "Not only did I miss out on a job that I really wanted, but the company hired someone against whom I stacked up very well."

Thu, Jun 13, 2013 12:04 pm

A while back, a reader of my ezine wrote that self-discipline had always been a struggle for her. "I know I’m capable of it from time to time, and I’m definitely getting better at it, but I would like to keep improving."  She asked me to write something about how to improve self-discipline.  And "could you recommend any books?" she asked.